Tuesday, March 6, 2012

Adopt kids... Let the born 'live' the life they've been given.

I heard the mini drum roll of tiny feet as they came running, giggling, and competing to reach the door first to open it up for us. But none could reach the latch at the top of the faded blue grilled door. We saw them squinting their eyes as their curious little faces glowed with the sun right behind us. For a moment inside my head, I was inside with them, and then when I looked out, I saw only dark figures. But they didn't need to see our faces. They knew it was us all along.

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From the first time we visited the Orphanage, we knew this was a place we would come back to, over and again. The cute innocent faces were magnets. When I looked at them, I couldn't help feeling sorry. I wondered how it must be to grow up without having a parent around, and the next moment I didn't want to know. It was a sinking feeling. I wished none of these kids had to live like this. I wished none of them had to feel the feeling that I refused to even imagine!

When asked, we found out that some kids are those whose parents died when they were young and had no family known left behind. Some others had families, but no one stepped up to take care of them or they themselves admitted the kids in the orphanage. Then there were those little abandoned infants, who were usually left behind in dustbins, temples, and hospitals. Unmarried mothers are usually the cause for this, who are shamed by our society, which doesn't let them rear their babies even if they want to. With the fear of harm to the baby on holding on to them, most are forced to give up on them hoping and praying that they'll end up into some good hands.
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But not all orphans get lucky, do they? Some kids are adopted, some taken away and their innocence misused, and the rest, well... they spend their life forced to believe that the orphanage is their home and family, and live there till they grow up and move out, only to make place for more. I have wondered what these kids go through when they see other kids with their mother and/or father. I'm surprised they still continue to believe in the higher power. How many times might they have looked up and asked God the question, "Why me?!". It's sad, it's unfair, and something really unfortunate.

This being one part of the post, there's one more I have to mention before moving on to my views on adoption. I have this theory, as weird as it might sound to you, that people from this moment should stop having babies. We all know this is kalyug. There are lots of theories that hint at destruction of the earth in the near future. When I say 'near future', I don't necessarily mean December 2012. But, it's evident that the earth is to see its end soon. And if that happens, there is going to be chaos and suffering when death looms over all the people alive.

And I ask myself, would I willingly want to face this natural wrath? And my answer is most certainly NO. But I have no choice since I'm not suicidal! But the babies who haven't yet been created have a way to escape this. And that way is by not bringing them into this life. Say, the earth is still fine when my time comes and I die a natural death. But would I die in peace knowing what awaits my little baby? Of course not! Wouldn't I then blame myself for befalling it on the baby. They did not ask for this life. We bring them on this earth for our own selfish reasons. To be happy. But would we be happy subjecting the little ones to these totally unavoidable mundane affairs of the world?

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Instead, there are so many little kids out there who are already born, abandoned, lonely, and have no one to look up to or call someone their family. Why not open our arms wide to these helpless kids, adopt them and make their life a happy one? Does true love for a baby be necessarily blood related? I don't think so. This way you are giving a new life to an already born baby, instead of giving new life to an unborn. I know this topic is a debatable one. But this has been my view for a long time now.

...We had spent quite some time with the little angels and the cute demons, and then it was time to leave. The highlight of the day for me was when a little boy, Krishna, who never came to any girl for a reason I fail to comprehend, finally came to me as I prepared to leave. I took him in my arms, and at that moment I knew what I wanted out of my future. I knew the baby of my life was still unborn, but would be born to someone, somewhere, someday, and I knew my destiny would lead me to the little one, in probably one of the many orphanages in the world. 

Having said that, I pray God to give me the courage to actually implement this plan in future when it is Time. Tathastu.




"I love you already! ", it whispered in my dream twice,
"I love you too my baby! ", I replied still closing my eyes.
"I'm scared you wont find me", it whispered more closer.
I smiled, "Don't worry sweetheart, we are meant to be together".




39 comments:

  1. a touching post...(dunno about others...but for me)...nice one... :)
    completely agreed... :O

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    1. Hey.. Thanks a lot ya... It's not every day i come across someone who shares/agrees with my views wrt adoption! :)

      Cheers!

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  2. is this the post you had mentioned that it is in your draft?
    touching one Pranita and truly, tathastu!

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    1. Absolutely right Sujatha... This is the one i had mentioned in your post about adoption.

      M really happy there are ppl who support this cause! :)

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  3. Very meaningful heading -> "Let the born 'live' the life they've been given".

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    1. Thank you Raja.... *takes a bow* :)

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  4. Pranitha, you really spread magic.
    First time here and loved it. Great write up and if the conclusion is what your heart speaks, I bow before you for the thought.
    This post did touch the depth of my heart for we share similar kind of ideology.

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    1. Hey... thanks for visiting... :)
      I'm flattered by ur comment... m so glad you share a similar ideology... Always a pleasure!
      The whole concept in this post has been in my heart for quite many yrs now..Thot of sharing it with my fellow bloggers/readers :)

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  5. Pranita, I can understand your feelings here. I love your views.
    Mostly, people adopt when they do not have a child of their own but It takes a lot of courage and indeed a large heart to adopt someone even if you have your own /biological child or the possibility to have a biological child . Just look at Angelina Jolie, Madonna, Nicole Kidman, Michelle Pfeiffer, Meg Ryan, and all of them have their own / biological children - Still , they adopted.

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    1. Very tru... these people are real inspirations for me. Though when it comes to stars, some do it genuinely for a cause, but there are some who do it to remain in shape. But both ways giving a life to an orphan is the best gift you could give urslf, the kid and the mankind! :)

      Thanks for stopping by :)

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  6. you are so right....we need to adopt more cute little babies....
    a very touching post!!!

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    1. Thank u so much for supporting this cause... I wish lots more people think in same lines... world will be a much better place with happier childhood for innumerable lil ones... :)

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  7. a very touching post, and yes I have moved papers for adopting a child :-)

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    1. Wow... Congratulations... :) I'm sure this child will bring you loads of happiness and luck...

      God bless your family.. Cheers to the kid! :)

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  8. too sad and unfortunate... u ended to well giving it an emotional end.
    Good post indeed...:)

    cheers!!!
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    1. Thanx much Nishchal... :)

      Cheers...!

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  9. tathastu indeed. i too thought like this when i was very young. but couldnt do it when i grew up. so hope u turn out to be a better human being.

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    1. I really wish i stick to this... Thanks for the honest comment... :)

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  10. This one kindled my soul. A very touching and thought provoking post. I think it is such a wonderful thing and brings a lot of happiness to both the parents and the adopted child. Beautifully written. :)

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    1. Thank u so much Raj... This is a very sensitive topic... and though many people agree, not many will be willing to implement it... i hope this changes! :)

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    1. Thank you.. Will see to it soon... :)

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  12. i decided at 17 years, that i would adopt kid(s) if i were, in future, unable to marry my true love. now its few years forward, i still say it to myself to soothe me.

    a great post with a great concern for the society around it is. it touches the tender strings inside the heart. your concern is reasonable as many humans have lost the track of their path, sinning. some abandoning their own children. others abandoning them without care as they are abandons. and some mean people, i know not why they live are "forgiven" (our prompt today), abandon these brethren of ours even in thought. yet, there are people like you ad people like all who agree with this. that these kids are no less important that kids in our own homes. for humanity to thrive, we humans should act. too deep a topic. too deep the concern. too deep our thoughts. too deep is the plight out there. too deep we need to get this message into people.
    oh my world.! oh my people!

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    1. Adopting kids in any context is a noble thing to do.. But i would suggest you, even if you end up with your true love, it wouldn't be a bad idea to still adopt kids...!!!!! But the choice is yours ofcourse... it's just my view!

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    2. i missed saying it there, in rush of emotions..the next comment, i said that. yes, it is my choice and i have taken it. :)

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    3. Glad to find another person sharing my views! Tathastu :)

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    4. but then, miracles do happen. :P :) tathastu :)

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  13. and i as a non believer of god, had been saying this to myself. that, i should convince her, if at all i get to marry her. i donno. its something to deep again..

    i can only say yours is a wise decision that would help the world in one big way. and one that would inspire many others.

    may stars watch over you and your child of future,
    whose mother he/she knows not,
    whose father he/she knows not,
    but would learn to see,
    that,
    she has been blessed,
    with a woman, firstly a human,
    who would indeed be her all. go ahead, Pranita. I mean each word. GO AHEAD, YOURS IS LIFE.

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    1. Those words, very lovely.. thank you Jayanth! :)
      I really pray for strength to carry out what i think of!

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  14. and have you considered, pranita, about how you name them?
    this question might just seem the most foolish and 'flirty' thing, but i know why i am asking it.
    as a person who has concern for the society, the world, the fellow people in simple terms, have you not seen the bad, the worst, the hell in India caused due to RELIGIONS?
    well, i have.
    and so did i decide that i would name my child(ren) in all three major religions. Islam, Hindu, Christianity. I am just telling you, this is not even a suggestion, i don't want you to get troubled in thought again.

    just wanted to tell you that.... India, uuhh..what have we here..! :-\ unity in diversity is a lie (except for those good wise people who try to make it true )
    I wont say LORD SAVE US,
    i believe as humans, we are the ones who should 'do' things.good things.
    LET US SAVE US.

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    1. might that be true, time tells

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    2. Hmmm.. about naming a kid... i don't mind what name it is... but i would name him/her with one which has a beautiful meaning. It has to be meaningful... that's all.. I don't like names which are fancy but mean nothing.. To each their own.. but personally this is my view!
      And i wouldn't want to impose my views on the kid which the kid might/might not grow upto believe in...! So if you name em with different religion names, you'll have to make sure they understand why you did that.. for they might not grow upto believe in why you named them so!


      Hoping for the best! :)

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    3. yes, thats a valid point too.. hoping for best, yes. :)

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  15. i just got this into my head..
    in my case, would be harsh on my part to adopt a kid, and forcing him to having no mother, in case. :-\

    who am i to do that to a child. mother, she defines a human's everything, almost everything until his teenage (of course , beyond that too). :-\
    that puts me into this question, should i marry even if it is not my true love?
    how can i be faithful to any other woman, when i see someone else as a girl for life.woman for life. :-\

    i hope talking this is not trouble to you.. i am not yet so open to talk to my parents about this. but with someone who shares the same thoughts, i feel like telling you..

    as i have learnt from life,

    are you about to do good?
    nice, get ready for all the harshness and obstacles.

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    1. Dude.. a kid growin without a mother and only father, is much better than not growin without anyone right?!
      And about marriage... dat's surely your personal choice.. Get into it only if you can do justice to the girl.. N if ur first love doesnt work out, it's not necessarily the end of the world...! It jus wasnt meant to be.. Open your eyes, you might just miss on the right one blinded by the one that wasnt meant to be!

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    2. it is another miracle, if the same miracle happens twice. you would be quite surprised to know how i became to believe in miracles, one who condemns god and religions alike. ah, its a long story. miracles do happen..
      surely it's not the end of the world, i believe that too. :)

      and ahh..time would tell..
      thank you pranita, for talking about this..i really mean it. :)

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